I Need Mens Opinion on Watching Child Birth….?
I am due next month and I really want my fiance to at least watch the head coming out he’s planning on being in the room with me the whole time but doesn’t want to see anything… obviously I am not going to force him to but he thinks that it will ruin the way he looks at me sexually. Does anyone have an opinion on this whether it did or didn’t effect the bedroom and what kind of experience it was for you, or if you decided not to watch then why?
i don’t think many guys plan on doing that…lol. i always hear them saying they think it’s sick and think it’s wrong to stare at a woman like that, haha. but then once it’s happening i always hear that they wanna see it cuz it’s their kid…maybe try to tell them it’s not YOU he’s looking at, it’s his son/daughter being born. but if he says absolutely no, don’t push him. i’m only 17 and i know you said you want a guys opinion so sorry, but some of this stuff i got from my exboyfriend of 3 years….and he has 2 brothers he was there for their birth. my friend who’s a guy also watched the birth of his brother which i wouldn’t do if my mom was giving birth but..okay. lol.
may husband couldn’t see me screaming and crying so he left me in the room with my mom…lolll but he is a great guy…i duno if it will ruin ur sex life not..but i don’t think so..
i just asked my husband for his opinion so i could give you an answer from a man’s point of view and he said that he doesn’t look at the vagina to be turned on that he looks basically at everything else and by the time you get to have sex again he won’t think about the birthing because he’ll be appreciative he’s getting some again. It’s not all loose like some people like to joke about. He also said seeing the baby’s head come was something he was ready for because he knew it was coming out of ‘there’, and he was happy to meet his daughter. Thinking about sex while the baby is coming out is non existent he’ll be so into watching you his loved one giving birth to another person that will love more than the anything else, it’s such an overwhelming feeling especially if it’s your first.
just ask for a mirror so you can see it yourself, if he wants to take a peep into the mirror too, that’s his choice. If he wants to close his eyes and try not to faint, that’s fine too.
my husband didn’t mind either way, but i’m a real "if i can’t see it its not as painful" kind of person, so i refused the mirror, and i was holding hubbys hand so tight he didn’t get a chance to get to the business end! lol
we both had to wait until he was lifted to my chest – and it was beautiful xx
My partner said the same thing through our entire pregnancy, that he did not want to see the head come out and would just be standing at the head of the bed where he couldn’t see too much, and I wasn’t sure I wanted him too see it.
However, all this went out the window when I was in labour and he ended up watching the whole thing because he was so excited, and I didn’t give a stuff where he was at that point!!
As for affecting the way he saw me sexually, well it did slightly for a few months maybe, but its been 6 months now and our sex life is as good as ever, except we are sometimes way too tired to bother as this is what having a baby does!
My fiance was so sure he didn’t want to see anything "down there" while I was in labor lol and to be honest I really didn’t want him to look either… But once it all started happening he was watching the whole thing lol and at that moment I really could have cared less. I had her four weeks ago so we haven’t been having sex just yet but from the way he acts I don’t think it has changed anything lol. Good luck and who knows your fiance may be the same way and change his mind once things get going, if not that’s ok too it wont change his love if he doesn’t look.
My fiance and I talked about this already and he is the same was as your fiance. He really wants to be there to support me, but he thinks that the only people that belong past the sheet while I’m giving birth are the doctors and the nurses.
I told him I didn’t mind though, because I would rather him be right next to me while I squeeze the living daylights out of his hand =P
naw dont let him watch nuddin. we man cant get over that very easy, if u like your sex life do let him watch what go on down there. im a man i know. its been a month and im still not ready to have sex "whoa" but it will be good if he watch cuz now i do anything for my woman that six minutes of pushin has gained her a lot of respect