My Mum and My Sister Treat Me Like a Little Retard Just Because Im the Youngest?
my mum goes ape whenever i say i dont like something shes doing. she has these horrible household habits like leaving lids off food containers and putting plates that still have food on them in the sink and thinking its ok to wash it down the sink. and she doesnt accept any of this and then goes and complains to my older sister who lives outside of home what a horrible little ****** im being when all thats going on is me losing my temnper at my mother for repeatedly refusing to do simple tasks among other things she does like looong winded speeches about how other people always have bad intentions and i should always watch out. theres a whole lot more about her bu i will not go into it here, it will take up page and a half. anyway, that paranoia of hers, thats the soviet mind set for you. its a pain to live with.
my sister wont listen to any criticism against my mum either, she makes excuses for her all the time and for some reason i dont get let off of anything. (and i dont trust my sister anyway, she used to emotionally and physically abuse me when she lived at home so i dont want to see her worthless face for a long time. she changed at first but now she back to her old abusive self) i dont understand it. i cant be myself around my family, i cant express what i really feel and i have to keep everything inside or i wont have a family anymore if i say what im really thinking. and my mum and sister can team up and be as horrible to me as they please. they have looong conversations about me behind my back and its infuriating because i feel like i cant trust them anymore. how do i deal with this? is being distant and withdrawn with them from now on a good idea?
im 19, my sister is 26
At this point it appears that your mother is strongly against being proven wrong. Your sister most likely sees this, and as a result started obeying your mother and "sucking-up". Once your sister noticed that you don’t share the same outlook on your mother, she began taking advantage of it to look nobel in your mothers eyes.
My best advice would be to play it cool. There is no point in worrying about it in this situation since your mothers mind is set on proving you wrong. The more you fight it, the more she’ll be getting upset. Ride it out, and once your able to move out, move out. Once she’ll see your gone, and there’s no one around to critic her horrible dish-washing abilities, she’ll want you back. Not your sister.
You’re 19 years old, as am I, so let me just get this out. YOU mind YOUR business and stop letting what other people do and say affect you and your stress level. Get out of this enviroment as soon as you can. You will get along with your ENTIRE family better when you can hold your ground because you’re not dependent on them. Trust me, I’ve been there.